I'm currently reading blink: the power of thinking without thinking and just finished he's just not that into you; two totally different styles of books, but both which I appreciate and can relate to their overall message of just trust your instincts. Gladwell says that "we live in a world that assumes that the quality of a decision is directly related to the time and effort that went into making it." I'm definitely guilty of falling into this trap and I am always over analyzing situations, trying to plan ahead and know what's coming in my future (I really dislike the unknown), and asking the WHY not just accepting something without an explanation. So reading these books have really got me thinking...do I trust my gut instincts? Am I really that indecisive? In hindsight, why didn't I trust my gut?
Some of my best decisions have come rather impulsively. These have made some of the best vacations, Miami, Las Vegas; experiences, skydiving, random outings; I blindly accepted my current job and even though there are definitely crazy days that make me think 'what am I doing?', overall it's been a wonderful experience and I've learned a lot.
I'm coming to the conclusion that I come off as indecisive because I'm a people pleaser. I don't like when others push their agendas and opinions on me, so I avoid doing that myself and I really don't like/want to piss people off. The more I think about it, I'm really not indecisive at all. I have an opinion on just about everything, I'm pretty judgmental and I know what I want; instead it's the others around me that get me acting all indecisive. Also, this Minnesota Nice and avoiding confrontation has me dragging the announcement of my decision out because why get everyone up in arms about my decision months in advance, when I can hold off for as long as possible.
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